According to the elderly neighbors, a cat showed up one day in their yard. At some point in time they decided to start feeding it and giving it water on their back porch. This was over a year ago. They still insist it is "not their cat" and refuse to name her anything more than "Kitty-kitty".
And that, perhaps, is the reason why I take it to heart that they refuse to acknowledge her as an important part of their daily lives. Kitty-kitty follows them around the yard as they putter and tinker like retired folks living in a rural area do. She's very interested in what they're doing, is very vocal around them, but yet, she's not "theirs". They leave food and water out, but don't want to feel responsible if she goes missing because of coyotes. They want the attention, but not the responsibility. And that makes me sad.
This couple leaves for the desert for 3-6 weeks at a time. In their absence, I am Kitty-kitty's feeder. That's all I'm supposed to be, but for me, it's not enough. I visit with her, sitting on the stoop, making her feel important and valued with words, pets and body language. I work with her so that I will be able to pick her up in case of an emergency. When the couple is home, I still bring "treats" to the fence for her every night. So she knows she matters.
why do I do this? Because I believe that stray cats choose their humans, hoping for the best....hoping that they can be an integral part of the pack....and I think everyone that is chosen by a stray should be HUGELY flattered that they were chosen. Miss Ivy chose me when she was 10 months old and pregnant. That was 12 years ago, and still, to this day, I feel honored that I was deemed worthy by this creature who had a choice to leave if she wanted....but she stays.
You know, maybe I'm thinking of this backward.... Kitty-Kitty's humans may not want to believe that she is "their" cat....and that may be true....
But perhaps, "these humans" are HERS..... and THAT is what matters.
Has a stray every "chosen" you?? I'd love to hear more in the comments section below!